We all have reoccurring patterns in our lives that we wish we could stop. Getting angry and using harsh language at someone’s mistake, using our hands to punish someone for a minor offense, alcoholism, porn addiction, murder, stealing, lying, cheating are just a few examples. We try everything to stop what we do.

We put boundaries, restraints, protective walls, anything to modify our behavior, we try hard with a sincere heart, but it never causes a permanent change in our behavior. We feel like a failure, we become depressed because we can’t get out of our mess, we feel we are chained and in bondage. We can’t stop our wrong actions. Why? Our actions are a fruit and not the root of the problem. God doesn’t want us to be in bondage.

Galatians 5:1 AMP “Walk by the Spirit it was for this freedom that Christ set us free completely liberating us; therefore keep standing firm and do not be subject again to a yoke of slavery which you once removed.”

[su_pullquote]“We do what we do, because we feel what we feel, because we believe what we believe.”[/su_pullquote]

It is our belief system, what we have learned in the past, what we have heard from others, what we believe about ourselves, that we see things through this filter or paradigm. Our belief system causes us to do or gives us license to do what we believe is right. We have seen how our behavior has left a trail of destruction for 10, 20, even 30 years. Are we willing to trust God to do something new to break our bondage?

The question would be “Is what I believe, right? Does it align with scripture?”. If what you believe does not align with scripture, you have a choice, continue in wrong belief or renew your mind and align it with scripture. This is the place where we must unlearn what we have learned to learn something new!

Romans 12:2 AMP “Do not be conformed to this world (any longer with its superficial values and customs) but be transformed and progressively changed (as you mature spiritually) by the renewing of your mind (focusing on godly values and ethical attitudes), so that you may prove (for yourselves) what is God’s will is, that which is good, acceptable and perfect (in His plan and purpose for you.”)

Questions to ask the Holy Spirit:

  1. What is my belief behind this action? Does it align with Your word?
  2. When did I first agree with this belief?
  3. Repent and ask forgiveness to God and the person your action hurt (remembering the four levels of an apology: surface problems-facts, surface causes- interpretation of the facts, root problem- failure to demonstrate love or respect, root cause-my unwillingness).
  4. Will you replace Your truth in my heart and activate it for Your glory and for the advancement of Your kingdom?